Category Archives: Excuses

Commit or Quit?

quitWe all have some projects, ambitions, dreams which we’ve not completed.  For everything you have ever thrown up your hands and said, “ENOUGH!,” you have your reasons for giving up.  That’s right…..you gave up.  You quit!  You said it wasn’t worth your time anymore, so you decided to invest your time somewhere else.  You didn’t see value and whatever you don’t value you throw in the trash.

What’s interesting is why you even started in the first place.  Chances are you decided to quit when you were in a state of mind which did not consider why you even were involved to start with.  What was the reason behind starting that project, committing to marriage, choosing a college major or career, or taking that job?  I believe if you remembered the reasons why you started you would be more committed to what you started.  Why?  Because there were good reasons, well thought out reasons, for starting, committing and investing at the start.  Let’s be honest, when we want to quit, our reasoning is lame at best.  We’ve reached a point where we’ve had enough, and we want out so badly that we will justify our exit plan.

What have you recently given up on because it isn’t what you thought it would be?  Did you consider how it can’t be what you thought it would be if you haven’t finished it yet?  Honestly, you don’t start building a house and halfway through walk in and get discouraged because its so incomplete.  The walls and roof have been framed, but there’s no sheetrock, and you can’t easily distinguish from one room to the other.  You wouldn’t say, “This isn’t what I imagined it would be, so let’s forget it.”  Well, of course it isn’t what you expected because its still in the process of being.  It isn’t yet, but it will be if you will see it through.  One of the reasons we quit so easily is we aren’t committed.  When you’re committed, you are determined to see it through.  You are determined to overcome.  You are determined to finish and finish well.  Much in life is a process, and there’s no sense quitting when the work, your work, isn’t even finished.

What have you recently given up on because its harder than you thought it would be or should be?  The problem here is you didn’t count the cost.  There’s nothing like getting excited, ambitious, even full of faith and not taking the time to consider the cost.  You can’t go into everything in life and think it should be easy, predictable, and follow your pre-defined plan.  In everything there will be struggles and difficulties which need to be overcome, and those same hurdles don’t necessarily mean you’re in the wrong line of work, the wrong marriage, chose the wrong major, or that you’re going the wrong direction in life.  Did you really think the person you married was going to be perfect and it was all going to be for the better and never worse?  Marriage is a challenge; are you going to commit or quit? Did you think just because you were voted ‘Most likely to succeed’ in your High School yearbook that your life would be full of continual greatness?  You’ll have to work hard like anyone else, so are you going to commit or quit?  When something becomes more of a challenge than you anticipated; do you commit or quit?  Do you think your life should be so much easier because you are a child of God?  In everything, we have a choice to make – commit or quit.

In 2 Corinthians 4:16-18, Paul says this:  “Therefore we do not lose heart.  Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.  For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.  So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen.  For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”

There’s a truth in this passage and its this:  The troubles faced are working God’s purpose in His children.  That’s not to say your struggle isn’t real, but it is saying you need to set your eyes on the One who is unseen rather than what you can physically see.  If you make decisions based on mere feelings, emotions, and expectations then you will never commit your life to Him as He commands.  Nothing worthwhile will be attained.  God’s faithfulness will never be witnessed.  The power of faith will be a testimony for someone else.  Yet, if you will fix your eyes on God and commit to what He has told you to commit to, and follow His Will in your life, you will find there is little to quit when God has called you to it.  It will be worth it because God said so.  Your marriage will be worth fighting for because God said He hates divorce.  Your commitments will be worth your effort because God gave you the burden, and you’re accountable to Him.  Let’s be as committed to all God has entrusted to us as He has been so committed to us.

 

What’s My Excuse this time?

no excusesHave you ever noticed the only time a person makes excuses when their behavior hasn’t measured up to their own expectations or even the expectations of those they respect.  Otherwise, we don’t have to make any excuses when we are operating at our peak and everyone around appears satisfied with us.  Excuses are made when there’s the need to try and remove blame from yourself.  To seek an excuse is to admit, as humans, we are not perfect, and we will not always do as needed or expected.

It’s easier to make an excuse than to come to resolution.  Sometimes people would rather have their behavior excused and overlooked by others rather than resolve what is causing the issue.  Resolve the issue, change behavior, and there is no longer a need to make excuses.

I’ll assume most who are reading this blog are Believers, Christians….Children of God.  So, are you living as His Word directs you to, and if not, why not?  What’s your excuse?

No, I’m not trying to be condemning or sarcastic but realistic….if you’re not being what He’s called you to be then what do you claim is the reason to excuse yourself from living as you should?  I doubt I’m alone on this, but I’d rather heal what’s broken, so I don’t have to be confined a crutch the rest of my life.

Let’s consider that Jesus came to release us from the excuses which keep us from living optimally for Him.  When the woman with adultery was brought before Jesus (John 8), it would be easy for her to justify her life.  There was nothing else she could do as she became a product of what others thought she was.  Maybe she could have excused her behavior saying everyone had faults and this just happened to be hers.  She could have even excused herself saying she didn’t have the opportunities others had, and she was doing the best she could with what was dealt to her.

Let’s not be so easily diluted because Jesus died and rose again, so we would no longer need to make excuses because He was all-sufficient to change us.  Jesus said He came so that ‘they may have life, and have it to the full.’ (John 10:10b)  So much for our excuses.  When I focus on Him, I become a product of His redemptive work in my life and not what others think.  When He is my goal, it matters little what others do because I desire to be like Him.  When I understand He is in control of my life, I praise Him for the opportunities He brings, and I won’t desire what He doesn’t present to me.  There is nothing lost if He has chosen to withhold it from me.

Be encouraged today how you, as a Child of God, don’t need to be stuck in the rut of making excuses.  Jesus has made a way for us to live for Him and because of Him, each of us is overcomers (Romans 8:28).  I may not be perfect, but He is perfecting me.  I may still fail, but I don’t have to be a failure.  I may sin, but I no longer have to be bound to it and can find freedom from it in Jesus.  Part of Jesus’ victory on the cross reminds me I can accept who I am, without excuses, as He is making me into who I am.  That’s good news!